Most likely the biggest, most fearful consequence associated with home education is the potential for sabotaging a child’s future possibilities. As I mentioned in a previous blog, “there will be consequences” for choosing home education, and again, you are probably hearing “that you will not like”. At least that is what the entire world seems to be saying – loud and clear!
Let’s begin by answering the question about whether or not a child’s future will be handicapped by home education.
NO, you are not potentially ruining your child’s future. Should they go to high school, and that is most definitely not recommended, they will have no problem integrating into their studies.
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Let me mention two important advantages and long-term consequences of learning at home. Remember, there are always exceptions so keep the words “should”, “could” and “usually” in mind.
The first advantage of home education is improved family dynamics. Siblings who grow up together become each other’s best friends. While there will always be contests between children and with parents, especially as children go through the transitional “teen” years, the default remains a strong loyalty to the family unit. Children who are allowed to be comfortable with who they are at home will be more likely to value the individuality of others, especially those nearest them. Educating at home is time well spent especially when considering the word love is best spelled T-I-M-E.
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Every decision comes with consequences. Unfortunately, the word consequences has taken on a negative meaning. We have all heard the warning “there will be consequences” and we have all heard the unspoken “that you will not like”. Truth is, consequences are directly related to the decision. Therefore, if bad decisions usually result in bad consequences, good decisions should bring good consequences.
We all know we are living in an imperfect world where the expected can elude us. Rose-colored glasses do not change the fact that bad things happen, even to good people who make good decisions. There are no guarantees other than inevitable death, taxes (if you make money), and persecution for doing good, and there are most certainly no guarantees in home education.
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While choices abound for the why’s, how’s, when’s, where’s and what’s of home education, there are other decisions that must be made to ensure a sound foundation upon which to conduct your educational efforts.
One of the biggest reasons families fail to continue a home education program is because their house is out of order. Today, I would like to address this most important topic and the decisions required to get this right.
There is an old saying that anything with more than one head is a freak or monster. This is true, especially when applied to the family. On the other hand, if there is no head the entity is dead, and a house lacking leadership is on a collision course with failure.
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I met my wife a half century ago. That day changed my life forever. What did I see? What caught my attention? What was it that made me say this is the girl for me? We were both swept off our feet and for good reason. It did not take long before we started planning our future lives together. The rest, they say, is history.
I have been the most blessed and happy husband possible, yet I would not be telling the truth if I told you our lengthy relationship was without challenges. I do not know where or why I discovered this, but I had a way of helping my wife and myself come back to reality and move on amicably to our next venture or adventure whenever we had a marital hiccup.
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Where to home educate is quite likely answered with a “duh”, but allow me to expand a bit.
The simple answer is home education takes place at home as opposed to at school. However, while it may be easy to describe a school setting, home is a bit more difficult to pin down.
It is said that home is where the heart is. Somehow, I suspect this includes more than a building where meals are most often served. We are all acquainted with the comfort of being home. I still remember hearing an older man stating that home is where you can scratch what itches when it does. I like that. Let’s face it, we are most free at home. We do things there that we would never consider doing publicly. Thankfully!
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When should we do “school”? This could be the shortest blog in history!
Follow a schedule that works for your family. Amen.
We have seen everything from rigid schedules that start precisely at 9:00 AM (not 9:05) and go until 12:00 PM (not 11:50) with a fifteen minute break to virtually no schedule of any kind. While a rigid schedule may not be to my liking, some families function better this way. Alternatively, having no schedule at all is also not my favourite approach as I believe there needs to be some form of structure.
I also have seen home education programs start at 11:00 PM and go to 3:00 AM. This may be why the children go to bed at 4:00 AM, get up at 2:00 PM and play until it’s time to start school. These are likely the children that may be taking the night shift, when they grow up. Although this is not my idea of a good schedule, it works for those who live with it.
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We didn’t know better and there was very little available at the time. Thirty-five years ago, there were but a few well established school curricula that could be used at home. All were based on school ideology and methodology, even if coming from a “Christian” perspective. Still, we determined to keep it as close to school programming as possible so our children would not be harmed by our decision to home educate them.
This was a mistaken understanding of home schooling, one that has survived with new home schoolers to this day. We are all nervous about this new venture and this is normal. While there may be some people who have researched and discovered best practices for escaping school processes, most people know very little outside of the status quo school system and therefore feel much more comfortable with home schooling than home educating or unschooling. This is okay.
Here is the best solution for this “what-to-do”:
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Now that you have decided to home educate and a sponsoring school has been chosen, there remain yet more decisions to be made.
I remember when my wife and I first determined to bring our children home for their “schooling”. Though we knew the school system was not meeting our children’s needs, we brought the school home and tried to make it fit our children. This did not go so well for us. Why could we not see that bringing home a broken system, only brought a broken system home? It was not fixed by having a new venue or application. An example I often use is, when a broken vehicle is dragged home, it remains broken. The same can be said of schools.
Not only were we brainwashed with school ideology like most everyone else, but since both my wife and I were trained as school teachers we were even bigger believers in schools knowing where, how, when and what we should be teaching our children. We had it so bad, we even entertained creating report cards in early November of our first year, until we came to our senses and realized we would be reporting to ourselves. This was probably the beginning of the unravelling of our school-based thinking and transitioning to become unschoolers.
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Have you ever made a bad decision? I certainly have. However, I do believe it is better to take the risk of making a bad decision than not to make any decision at all.
I made a bad decision several years ago while enjoying a bit of warm winter weather in California. I could see the relationship with our associate school at the time was becoming strained, but I decided to wait and see what would happen. Shortly thereafter, our contract with the school was terminated and the school attempted to take over our families.
This put us into a do-or-die situation, as we had no time to apply for our own accreditation. Another school came to our rescue and we continued for another six years, during which time I did nothing toward the establishment our own school. This turned out to be another bad decision as this agency also came to threaten our demise.
Continue reading “Who Should I Register With for Home Education? Choices (Part 4)”